Enjoy Sex Toys

Well, you know what they say, different strokes for different folks. Seriously though, I only get off with clitoral stimulation, not penetration, so smaller sex toys are much better for me. I’ve certainly made do with large sized vibrators but after much trial and error I’ve really found that I have better control over a small bullet style vibrator or clit vibrator. As they’ve also been known to say: it’s not the size of the boat but the motion in the ocean. Ha ha.

I think the important thing to keep in mind when it comes to buying any sex toy is to know your own body. You can spend a lot of time and money trying out sex toys that aren’t right for you if you don’t know what you personally like. Comparing your tastes, and toys, to anyone else’s is pointless. There is no ‘right’ size or kind of sex toy, only what is right for you personally. There is really no such thing as too big, or too small, just what’s right for you.

If so, Im sorry to hear that. I’ve always felt that if you aren’t having your sexual needs met then the relationship is on its way out. I don’t think you have anything to beat yourself up over, you’ve gone above and beyond what you need to do.

When my hubby and I hit a slump we started exploring sex toys. It sounds like you’re open to that idea but he might not be. I was a little leery at first but then my hubby bought a sex toy game all about discovering your lover. It really helped keep me from being self conscious and we both opened up a lot about what turns us on when it comes to our partner and what toys might work best for us. It was a good first step.

If you love your hubby and he just won’t change there’s no reason why you shouldn’t get some sex toys for your own pleasure. There are plenty of dildos, vibrators, clit suckers, anal beads, ect that you can use to keep yourself satisfied. And who knows? Maybe once the pressure is off your husband or once he sees how well you can take care of yourself without him it’ll jump start his engines.

It’s really a matter of personal taste. I usually buy non-vibrating ones because I feel like they last longer, and because you can easily add a small bullet style vibrator to them or put a vibrating cock ring on and low and behold, your non-vibrating pocket pussy becomes a vibrating one.

What I will say about pocket pussies in general, whether they vibrate or not, is that I have definitely found it is worth it to invest in a good one. You really want something that is going to feel as realistic as possible so look for something made from cyberskin. And definitely use a ton of lube. My first time in I was a little stingy with the lube and I ended up tearing the opening a little. It was still useable but it lost that tight feeling I loved. Since I started using a lot more lube I’ve never had a torn one since.

I also try to look for ones that have an opening on both ends because it makes it a lot easier to clean them up afterwards. And you definitely want to keep them clean. Your toys are going to last a lot longer if you keep them as pristine as possible.

The answer to that question is toys, toys, and more toys. And definitely look for sex toys that you can both use on each other. Girls seem to always go for sex toys that a guy can use on them (which is sexy! Not totally complaining) but we guys like to have you take care of us a little, too.

You can probably figure out how a dildo works on both you and your partner, but for some guys getting penetrated can be a touchy subject. People don’t usually think of a vibrator as a male sex toy but it definitely can be used on you both. If he’s open to penetration they can be used anally to stimulate the prostrate but there are plenty of non-penetration ways you can use a vibrator on him. My girlfriend holds hers against my dick while she jerks me off and it feels incredible. She runs it along my nipples as well.

Just be clean when sharing toys. Pulling a fresh condom over your dildo or vibrator when you switch it between you will keep everyone clean and happy.

Which is better depends totally on the person. Some women can only get off if their clit is stimulated; others love the feeling of being penetrated. If your girlfriend usually comes during oral sex and not vaginal sex I’d say get her a pair of vibrating panties or something like a clit pump or the soft touch clit licker. If she seems to come with both a rabbit vibrator is probably right up her ally. The biggest benefit of the rabbit style vibrator is that you get the clit stimulation at the same time you get penetration. A standard vibrator is good just for penetration and stimulating the g-spot.

I have a rabbit style vibrator and swear by it, mine is the Gyrating Beaded Dolphin. It has every option you can think of and then some. It has dual speeds for the shaft and the clit stimulator, various different pulsating rhythms, and to top it all off the control pad glows in the dark so there’s none of that fumbling around right when you need to change the speed or something.

There has been a lot of media coverage about phthalates in children’s toys, water bottles, plastic cutlery, and other items made of plastic. Unfortunately, few media outlets have told us whether or not to be worried about pthtalates in adult sex toys.

In order to decide for yourself, it is first important to understand what phthalates are. Phthalates are chemicals used to soften hard plastics so that they may be bent into shape during manufacturing. Some manufacturers use pthtalates to turn hard plastics into soft, pliable products, like dildos or baby teethers. The problem with pthtalates is that they have recently been found to leach chemicals that act like female hormones when they are absorbed by the body.

So far, the use of pthtalates has been restricted for use in children’s toys in the European Union for nearly a decade. The state of California has been a leader in regulating pthtalates in children’s items in the United States. But children’s items have remained the main focus. Pthtalate exposure is related to the amount of use of pthtalate containing products, therefore adult sex toys like dildos and vibrators containing pthtalates are thought to be safe. However, many researches and medical practitioners are encouraging adults to consider replacing old plastic sex toys with new, pthalate-free toys.

There are many pthtalate-free dildos and vibrators available, in many different styles. The Evolved Symphony line of vibrators offers pthtalate-free vibrators with options like a rabbit style, or water-proof version. The Tantus Silicone Acute Dildo is pthalate-free and perfect for G-spot stimulation. It can also be used with a harness! The Vibratex line also offers many pthtalate-free items, like the amazing “Rock Your World”.

While it is a personal decision to toss your old favorites and replace them with safer, newer versions, research shows that minimizing your pthtalate exposure is a wise choice. Plus, with so many pthtalate-free options available, it’s a great excuse to treat yourself to a few new, fun toys!

“There really is no one way to use a dildo,” Cathy said to the group of seven women gathered on the low couches around her. Though some tittering rippled through the group, most of the women sat with wide eyes, open mouths (and a few tickling with wetness) watching as Cathy reached into the bag at her feet.

Producing a giant 10-inch flesh-colored dong out of her bag, Cathy sat in front of even wider mouths (and some crossed legs), manipulating the dildo in her hands. She regarded it very much like a totem, a thing to revere as she easily wiggled the thick fake cock this way and that, obviously comfortable with its girth and length. When she finally looked up at her shocked audience, she stopped…then sat back in her chair with a loud chuckle.

“You think I’m serious with this?”

There was a collective sigh all around as Cathy put the giant fake cock on the chair beside her, reached into her bag and began distributing brand new, six-inch dildos all around.

As the ‘fuck-aware’ party got into full swing Cathy went to each of the ladies, showed them the latest in lubes, jellies, clips, clamps and vibes, but really what most of these thirty-something housewives wanted to fondle, talk-about, see were the various dildos Cathy had brought with her this night.
About a half hour into all the frivolity (and some healthy sales, much to Cathy’s delight) she found herself in a far corner off of the kitchen with Amanda, the mistress of this household. The petite red head was all aglow (Cathy had seen this look before, of course) hardly able to take her clenched fist from around the healthy 8-inch dong she had just bought and held so tightly.

“You look like a satisfied customer,” Cathy chortled.

“Well, I will when I ge…” Amanda said, caught herself and giggled. “…sorry, you know what…I mean, yes, I love this, I really do.”

“You have that look in your eye like you’re bursting to try it,” Cathy said.

“Oh my God,” Amanda said, obviously embarrassed but so titillated and turned-on she could do nothing else but wiggle against her pretty stucco wall and hold her new purchase even tighter. “I mena, I can’t get my hand off the thing.”

“It’s one of my most popular models.”

“It’s so …thick,” Amanda squealed and with her other hand lifted the wine glass to her mouth for a generous gulp of the red wine she had been passing around at the party.

“Now, it shouldn’t replace the real thing,” Cathy said, sipping at the water she held. “But you can’t beat a nice thick dong for those lonely nights.”

“Oh God yeah,” Amanda agreed, chuckled and gulped her wine again.

“Tell you what,” Cathy began, lean into the woman and whispered. “None of them is gonna miss you,” she said indicating the chatting and playing women in the living room… “Why don’t you and I go into your laundry room there and I help you with a nice hands-on demonstration.”

Amanda looked up, her pretty pale cheeks flushing, her nipples poking out of her shirt even more as Cathy smiled and placed a quick hand to her forearm.

Cathy had been in this position before with many a client; she didn’t make this pass lightly. First of all, Cathy was resolutely bisexual, could scope out the woman at these parties-married divorced, engaged, single- who might be, could be, would be enticed, interested, seduced into a rendezvous; pretty petite Amanda, recently divorced, literally salivating with that thick fake cock in her hand, seemed a perfect candidate. A few glasses of red wine, fondling a toy or two, women who might not normally consider a chance meeting with another woman, a little off-to-the-side playtime, might very well take to Cathy’s suggestion, as many had.

When Amanda turned to make her way to her laundry room, Cathy knew her instincts had not failed her.

“Sit slow” the word appeared in Janine’s IM box.

“I am” she typed back…with only her right hand.

“Bet you’re wet”

“Yeah”

“Does it feel good? Opening your little pussy, like almost right there inside you but not yet?”

“Yeah. Fuck! SO much!”

“You are so my little whore, aren’t you?”

“Yeah”

Janine spread her thick thighs even more, wiggled her little ass cheeks and sat even deeper on the dildo she held facing up, on her desk chair. She really wanted to just sit hard, push her pussy down quickly the 8-inch fake cock below her, but she was determined to go at the pace Frank was setting.

“Slow slow. I know how you like to get that toy deep inside your pussy all at once, but you got to go slow-

“Fuck, its hrd t stay hs way” Janine tried to type as she just got the opening of her thickening lips around the head of the dildo. Shit, she was so wet, she felt like she’d slip right down the thing too soon if Frank didn’t let her mount it.

“You want to get it in, right? Really grind your hips on it. You like to fuck, I know you like to fuck!”

“Frankie, you’re killing me”

“Slow, slow slow. Take it slow. Take it slow”

Janine’s inner thighs were shaking now, as she got the wide tip of the dong in and between, right at the entrance of her gloppy warm hole. Shit, how the hell would Frank even know she didn’t just sit right down on the thing? What the fuck was there stopping her, really?

*She* was stopping her, of course.

What Janine loved, ached for, craved, wanted more than anything in this entire world, was having Frank meter-out her punishments, her submission, her compliance. That she obeyed got to her more than any toy up her pussy ever could (regardless of how thick and long that toy was!) That her curly-haired man with the naughty laugh could manage this, on an important business trip of all things, really made her brain fever with the possibilities she and her husband of two years had yet to explore.

“How much is in?”

“An inch, mybe” Janine typed…and felt.

“K. Keep that pace, slow just like that”

“Fuck,” Janine said to their empty bedroom. Her long legs made it nearly impossible to get really down on her chair the best way possible, but she was holding, squatting, slowly spearing herself, just like Frank wanted her to use it this night.

But Jesus this was torture!

She gave in a little more and gulped as more of the dildo fed up into her.

“Hold on a sec” Frank typed about thirty seconds later.

“Stop” he added.

“Hold on?” Janine chuckled to her “Dell” monitor.

Stilled, willed, chilled Janine pushed her pussy muscles so they poised there with about two inches of the dildo inside her. As far as she had been instructed she was to continue slowly sitting down on the fake cock, but maybe Frank would demand something else?

“Fuck” she typed. “WHAT THE FCK F?”

“Calm down, I’m just taking a break”

“YOU’RE taking a BREAK?! Frank, I have 2 inches of this thing up me, My lgs r killing! I got to get this fucking dildo in me or I’m gonna die die DIE!!!!”

“Well, just for that my impatient little flower…stand the fuck up!”

“Frankie! nO NO!”

“You’re saying no to me?”

Janine felt a cold chill rise up her spine as she quickly recalled how Frank had punished her the last time she had said no to his sexual games. How her ass had hurt for days after from the whipping she received…and how she ached to feel that sting again.

“Frank” Janine said and typed “Frank”

“Frank, Frank, FRANK!”she added.

Janine squat on the dildo, her little tits shaking, her inner thighs hurting, her pussy flooding even though she had been given the order to halt her movement with just the beginnings of the thick fake dong inside her.

“FRANK” she pleaded by typing and saying. “Frankie, tell me what to do and I’ll do it, you know that. You know I want to obey every order. Just tell me, tell me”

“I’m thinking”

“PLEASEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE”

“You told me ‘no’”

I’m Ss, Sorry, Please, plea”

“No worries. You wait there just like you are. That’s your punishment. You got stay there like that until it kills you. Until your fucking pussy aches”

“FRANK…I love you”

“I love you to…but you got to keep that dildo right where it is and suffer”

“Omg”

“Wait” Frank typed as he knew his wife did…and would.

Every few steps Mark jolted Penny. He was metering it out without pattern, never the exact number or steps or the same amount of seconds passing from the time before, keeping poor red-faced Penny sweetly off balance. Of course every time Mark flicked the switch in his pocket his girlfriend looked over at him, bit her generous lower lip and her big brown eyes went even wider. With Penny seemingly as ripe and ready as the vibration in her thong was making her, it was all Mark could do not to spirit her out of the mall. But the couple had promised each other that they’d stick to their Christmas shopping plan, despite how horny Mark made Penny flicking the remote control clitoral vibe on and off.

“My thong’s gonna be soaked by the time we get home,” Penny said as the couple stepped past the mall Santa and his enormous line.

“Oh so now you’re complaining?” Mark snickered. “We both know you’re loving this. You like use your rabbit thing 24/7, doncha?”

“Yeah, but this is…well you feel what this little vibe feels like on your balls!” Penny chuckled as they continued to make their way through the tight mall crowd. “It’s a pinpoint vibration, like all you wanna do is grab it, ya know?”

“I knew you’d like it, I really did,” Mark said. “I just never knew how…”

Mark hit the switch in his pocket and Penny stopped walking, leaned into her boyfriend and whimpered.

“…much.” Mark completed as he and Penny stood there, seemingly window-shopping in the store window the tall girl had just literally collapsed into his side.

Mark flicked the switch back to the_off_position and the tall red head on his arm stood back panting.

The thing with Penny was that basically…she was orgasmic to a fault. The last thing Mark had needed to buy his girlfriend was a remote control clit vibrator (or any more toys than she already did have!), all he had to do on most occasions was rub that little spot in her back (dead center of Penny’s shoulder blades, about halfway up her back) and she’d get all quivery and start to pull him into her no matter where they happened to be. For their past year and a half together, Mark and Penny had enjoyed a pretty wild sex life, finding in each other a nearly insatiable ache to ‘do it’ mostly all the time. Both recently graduated college, the sexual encounters they had had with boyfriends and girlfriends respectively had been interesting and fun, and up until they met each other, Penny and Mark would have thought that what they had had so far experienced was all there was to sex. But the couple were coming to realize that theirs might just be the first really good sexual relationship either one was going to have.

Experiments with toys, position, outfits, role-play and now something like this remote control vibrator were perfect illustrations of just how comfortable and easy the couples’ sex life was.

Mark hit the switch again and this time, held it down _on_ .

“Mark, Mark,” Penny squealed, so loud this time, an old couple in front of them turned around.

“Mark, let go, let go,” she said, clutching her hand on his bicep. “Papaplease. I don’t wanna come here. Not here.”

Easing their way to an unoccupied bench, Mark helped his girlfriend sit as he carefully kept his finger still pressed forward. Smiling wickedly he sat next to Penny and snuggled up close.

“You gonna come?”

“Shit, I think…oh shit,” the girl said trying to scootch herself back into the bench, adjusting and undulating to gain some relief.

Mark still had his finger pressed forward.

“Are you gonna come?” he whispered again and Penny looked at him wide-eyed as Christmas shoppers passed them and paid them no heed.

“Mark,” Penny sighed, crossing her legs. “Mark.”

“Yes?” he said, leaned in close to Penny, smiled…then released his hold on the remote switch.

Penny’s body went slack as her thick lips formed a perfect circle.

“You bastard, I was really gonna come,” she sighed.

“But you said you didn’t wanna come here,” Mark said.

“I think we’re done shopping.”

“No, we still got…”

“Mark..” Penny said and with this she sat bolt upright, reached into her boyfriend’s coat pocked and extracted the remote control.

“…we’re done shopping,” she finished. “We got to get home now.”

“We gotta?” Mark asked.

“Yeah, we gotta.”

Mark followed Penny out of the mall.

Standing sex is really not as easy to pull off as Hollywood would have us think. Realistically, both partners need to be very close in height, and both need to have strong arms and legs. Plenty of people pull it off, but what about the majority of sex partners who do not have similar enough body types to obtain this Herculian feat?

If one partner is shorter than the other, consider having the shorter person stand on stairs. Of course, this adds some danger to the position…doing the nasty and not falling down the stairs! If you just can’t get the hang of having sex standing up, consider using furniture and faking it.

The trick here is to find something that one partner can sit on the edge of that puts her at the right height to fit with her man. The average man is about 6 feet tall– kitchen counters tend to be about the right height to get the woman’s crotch lined up with a standing man’s crotch. Using the counter to balance the woman on the edge of, the man then stands in front of her. She wraps her legs around his waist, and he fucks her while keeping her ass ever so slightly on the counter. Voila– easier vertical action.

Sex toys like dildos and vibrators are great for vertical sex. If you just can’t seem to get your parts lined up properly, use your toys to fake it. The man picks the woman up and backs her against a wall; the wall will offer support. She wraps her legs around his waist and uses her arms to hold on to him around the shoulders or torso. Now, he uses an adult toy on her using one hand, while helping hold her up with the other.

Many people find that sex standing up is often easier if the man enters the woman from behind. This way she can stand with her back to him, and he can bend his knees to enter her, then rise to a more full standing position. Ladies, wear your high-heeled shoes for this one. You’ll feel sexier, and it will help give you extra height needed for your bodies to fit together.